I welcome you on a journey that you would start with in yourself and after which you shall never be the same.

I am Syed Hassan Abbas. And I do love to write. I do love to listen to my heart and love to share to you what I listen. I have more other introductions but at the moment its enough to start our communication. I used to be an introvert, some one who does not like much to tell or talk about one self. I also did not love myself. I rather was involved in some thing that I today calledanti-love. It is not hate, but it isn’t love either.

Those wonderful eleven years:

Before I started to write here at this blog, I had eleven very painful years of my life. What did I go through in those years has not very much to do here at this point, I may some day share that in one of my writings, but during those years I did not love myself.

But this blog has every thing to do with, how I dealt with myself and transformed after those eleven years. Today I call those extremely painful years as those eleven wonderful years, because I realize that without them, I could not have become, what I am today!

I learnt that most of us do not love ourselves:

The lack of knowing about genuine love, the lack of genuine love, the lack of genuine love towards ourselves and others is the biggest source of pain that we go through and this pain is not even necessary. It is kind of self-inflicted.

Hey…..…….from this side :

Today, I meet tens of dozen of people inflicting the same pain to themselves and those dear to them, and going through the same misery that I had gone through for quite a period of my life.I started to write this all to allow every one who reads these words, to understand genuine love and to not go through an unnecessary pain in life.

I would think is this necessary for every one else to go through the same pain, that I had gone through? If I have bruised myself carving out a path in a thick forest, can I not shout out to others……. Hey from this side !

What is love re-defined about?

Love redefined is about loving oneself. It’s about developing the capacity to love ourselves, before we start or claim to love others.

To love is to take action and to allow oneself grow mentally and by spirit.Redefining love thus is about teaching ourselves to take action and to grow.

Love redefined is about making people see love different from the myths ofholly woodand romance literature. It is to see love from the works of fiction authors to what nature wanted us to do with love: transformation !

Real love has huge power. It transforms. I know it because it has transformed me. We tend to focus only one aspect of love, the one related to the gender difference and the sensual and the sexual attraction caused by it. Love is beyond what we normally think, that’s why God chose it to be his first expression !

Let yourself feel loved. Value yourself. Start doing things, even on a very tiny scale that let you know that you value yourself. Here is a small list of doables:

Value your body:

Take 10 minutes for an aerobic exercise. Just begin for 10 minutes. Then increase one minute a day to 45 minutes. You shall love it. Do not abuse your body.

Value your health:

Eat healthy. Eat green. Do not over eat. Exercise daily for 30 minutes.

Value your time:

spend some time in doing something that grows your soul. Read a good work. Practice in your mind to not react to something to which you have always reacted in anger. Rehearse by rewinding that particular memory or scene and practice to act calm. Practice it 10 times in your mind.

Value your relationships:

Tell them you love them. Or apologize if you have hurt them. Contact them if you have not done that over the years.

Value your kids:

Spend minimum 5 hours of quality time per week with them.

Value your soul:

Meditate or remain silent for half an hour a day. Just silent. Pray.

Value the universe:

Spend time to enjoy its marvels. Have you ever seen a sunrise with mindfulness? Or spend uninterrupted 10 minutes gazing at the sky? When was the last time you did this?

Decide

that you shall not let yourself go waste.

1. Learn to receive love. Find a mentor. Ask people how they receive love. If they gaze at you with a question mark on their face, move to the next person with this question. Those who know to receive love will tell you.
2. Purpose. Find your purpose of life. Know it. Live it. If you do not know your purpose do everything to get to it: Think. Write self-addressing questions. Meditate. Pray. Seek. Ask from others what did they do to find their purpose of life. One most important clue is to know what you love most. Doing that often takes you to your purpose. Find your passion. Find something that you love to do and you would do and do not worry whether you get paid for it or not and then
3. Live off your passion. Use your passion in some way that creates value to lives of others. People love to pay for what will add genuine value to their lives. Find a way that may let you earn using what you love to do. It is a blessing to earn doing what you love.
4. Travel. Be ready to come out of your comfort zone. Leave all excuses. Can’t take off from work. Having to pick up kids to and from school. Annual audits. A friend’s marriage to attend. Travel a lot. Sometimes travel without a plan. Just go out with an intent to travel and sight-seeing.
5. Decide to live a simple life. Take frequent walks than using a car. Drink plain water and not sodas. Cook at home. Play with kids. Have fun.
6. Spend time on gardening. Do that even if it’s a few pots containing flowers. You will learn patience, resilience and appreciation of beauty.
7. Stop waiting for happiness to arrive. Simply because it never does arrive. Happiness is not a railway station that you would arrive at. Neither it is an event after which you will feel happy.
8. Get rid of mental conditioning that possessing more of things makes us happy. Spend some serious time to abolish this attitude.
9. Discipline yourself. Disciplining yourself gives you joy.
10. Love someone more than yourself.
11. Appreciate people who love you without seeking an evidence of it.
12. Do not be the first to break relationships, promises and trust.
13. Stop seeing mirror for 10 days.
14. Walk on foot up a hill.
15. Soak in the rain frequently. Do not avoid that just because you might catch cold.
16. Swim.
17. Own a pet that can respond to your presence. A horse if you can afford one or a dog or a cat is a great company. Owning a snake, a crab, or a lizard or a toad does not give you that joy that owning a dog or a cat does.
18. Stop being in a hurry or to take several appointments to meet in a row. You will enjoy none.
19. Make great love.
20. Contribute. Do free service. Teach someone for free. Donate what you love most.
21. Never lose hope.

Mastering the Art of Upselling: A Proven Strategy to Boost Your Sales

In today’s competitive marketplace, acquiring new customers can be costly and time-consuming. While attracting fresh leads is important, one of the most effective ways to increase your revenue is through upselling. Done correctly, upselling not only increases profits but also enhances customer satisfaction by providing more value.

As a sales coach and consultant, I often find that businesses underestimate the power of upselling. Let’s dive into what it really means, why it works, and how you can apply it to your business.

What is Upselling?

Upselling is a sales technique where you encourage customers to purchase a higher-end product, an upgraded version, or add valuable features to what they’re already buying. Instead of just closing the deal at the basic level, you aim to increase the customer’s spend by offering more value.

For example:

• If a customer is buying a smartphone, upselling could mean recommending a model with higher storage.

• In a restaurant, it could mean suggesting a premium dessert or a larger meal portion.

• For a coaching program, upselling could mean offering a personalized 1-on-1 package instead of a standard group session.

Why Upselling Works

1. Increases Revenue Without Extra Leads
   Instead of chasing new clients, you earn more from the ones you already have. This reduces your customer acquisition cost.

2. Improves Customer Satisfaction
   Upselling isn’t about pushing unnecessary products—it’s about genuinely helping clients get better results with improved solutions.

3. Builds Stronger Relationships
   When customers feel you’re offering solutions that enhance their experience, they trust you more. This loyalty often leads to repeat business.

The Psychology Behind Upselling

At its core, upselling works because people want the best value for their investment. When you present an upgraded option that solves their problem faster, more effectively, or with higher quality, customers naturally lean toward it.

The key is to position the upsell as a logical next step, not as a pushy sales tactic.

How to Master Upselling in Your Business

Here are proven strategies you can implement today:

1. Understand Your Customer’s Needs

Before suggesting an upsell, listen carefully to your customer. What are their goals, challenges, or pain points? The better you understand them, the easier it is to recommend the right upgrade.

2. Show the Value, Not Just the Price

Instead of saying, “This is $50 more,” highlight the benefits: “This option includes personalized coaching sessions that will help you implement strategies faster and see results sooner.”

3. Offer Tiered Options

Create packages like Basic, Standard, and Premium. Many customers will naturally choose the middle or higher tier when they see the added benefits.

4. Bundle Products or Services

People love convenience. If you can combine related products/services into a bundle, it becomes easier to upsell. For example, “Along with the business coaching session, you’ll also get access to exclusive sales templates and weekly accountability calls.”

5. Train Your Sales Team

If you have a team, coach them on spotting upselling opportunities. Role-play scenarios where they can practice suggesting higher-value solutions naturally.

6. Use Timing Wisely

The best moment to upsell is when the customer has already made the decision to buy. They’re in a “yes” mindset, and offering a better option at that stage feels natural.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

• Being too pushy: Customers can sense when you’re only chasing revenue. Always keep their best interest in mind.

• Offering irrelevant upgrades: If the upsell doesn’t match their need, it will backfire.

• Not training your team: If staff don’t know how to upsell correctly, opportunities will be lost.

Real-Life Example of Upselling Success

One of my coaching clients, a fitness trainer, initially offered only one-on-one sessions. After implementing upselling strategies, he introduced tiered packages—Basic (4 sessions), Standard (8 sessions + diet plan), and Premium (12 sessions + diet plan + weekly check-ins).

Within three months, over 60% of his clients started choosing the Standard or Premium packages, doubling his revenue without needing new customers.

Final Thoughts

Upselling isn’t about squeezing extra money from customers—it’s about delivering more value and helping them achieve their goals faster and more effectively. When you shift your mindset from “selling more” to “serving better,” your clients will happily invest in upgraded options.

As a business owner or sales professional, mastering upselling could be the key to scaling your income without increasing your marketing costs. Start small, test different approaches, and always put the customer first.

✨ Action Step for You:
Look at your current product or service. Can you create a higher-value version, add extra support, or bundle it with complementary services? Start offering this as an upsell today, and watch how your sales grow.

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People who keep on receiving do not remain happy for long. There is an intrinsic joy in giving and an intrinsic woe in receiving, though extremely subtle but it exists. It does not matter what you are receiving or giving out.

We as human beings and as a creation of nature or God Force or God or Allah or Ilaha or Eelia or Rama whatever name we choose for it follow the path of nature in our purest raw unconditioned form.

The path of nature includes giving first. We give the soil seed first and reap later. We give the child the feed first and see her grow later. We in our closest form to nature are first givers and then receivers.

This giving and receiving has to be on the giving side more or at least in balance with the receiving side. We, to be happy have to learn to give more than we receive, at least that much of giving which equates receiving.

Most of the people who have always received love, attention, care and warmth and have not given that much to others, do not remain internally happy. The amount of this exchange has to be minimum at balance for us being at the margins of happiness and misery.

How happy we are is simply a measure of how much more we give than we receive. Whether it is love, trust, warmth, prayer or anything, it has to be more out flowing.  There is no other short path to joy.

Knowing is different from having an information of. Knowing is experiencing. Knowing is actually having visited a place and feel how it is to be there.

We all have an information about our inner self; it is only but information. We actually have not visited our deepest selves. I do not have an idea or a percentage estimate about the number of people who would want to know about themselves, their true selves but I am sure some one who wants to be there may find this content supportive for his or her journey.  Here are a few ways to do that:

Schedule a day or regular hours away from external environment

We only begin to know ourselves when we are not busy in external environment. When we are not watching TV, when we are not busy with the kids, when we are not getting ready for a dinner, when we are not preparing our tax return, when we are not worrying about a family issue, when we do not have to rush for our kids’ school, when we are not remembering some thing, when we are not planning our next week, only then we begin to get ready.

It is but just the beginning. If we do not have a committed, deliberate willingness, our journey is most likely to end very much there, with only experience of having spent a calm afternoon or evening.

Find someone whom you can talk to at a deeper level and ask him or her to blatantly speak about you.

This is extremely useful however carries certain risks. (a) Do that only if you are really ready to listen. For if you are not ready, you may find a negative feeling in your heart, or you may find a hair line in your heart  just like that in a glass before it breaks (b) If you can listen to the comments without having any reverse thought about that person (c) If you are sure that such a truth about you shall not jeopardize your relationship with that person. (d) Truly thank the person after you have done that. (e) Do not offer the same activity to him/her for it may contain a will to justify or contra-comment towards him/her.

Decide to not commenting

Decide that you shall not comment about or on anything: moral or immoral, negative or positive, good or bad. For anything that we comment on, expands and becomes an external influence. Just observe and let it go unattached to your thoughts.

Find a mentor

You must know what to look for in a mentor. Patience. Preparedness. The Knowledge. And most importantly Love, for without love it is impossible to travel such a journey. Spend time with your mentor. Be respectful. Be genuinely respectful. Only genuine respect cultivates the soil of heart in which the seed of spiritual knowledge stays. Do what your mentor tells you to. Do not doubt.

Touch the nature around

Find a place where you can visit frequently. And go there frequently.

Be Nothing:

 For a fixed part of the day decide to be nothing. Decide just for an hour of the day that you shall not identify yourself to be an achiever or a successful businessman or a great teacher or a wonderful mom or any adjective. Just assume nothing for yourself. Dive into nothingness.

Know the difference between going with the flow and going with the heart

The two necessarily are not the same. Some times the flow has its source from social norms, values and morals or what most of the people do for fun or for achieving a certain outcome. Go with the heart, even if it opposes the flow.

Go with the flow of universe

and not what majority of people around are involved with. To feel the flow of universe, become it.  To become it, adopt its patience. To adopt its patience, adopt its speed of achieving results. This is the same speed at which a child takes her shape in her mother’s womb or a wheat plant grows inside the soil. Its slow yet very thorough and yet very disciplined and yet very regular.

Know God

For your knowledge about your God may just be an extension of your perceptions and projections. Know God what He is, not what you think He is. You would know thyself.

And that would create the greatest joy you would ever come across.